The secret to success is that there is no secret!
All it takes is a little hard work and dedication mixed with a some time and patience, and BAM, you’re on your way to achieving all your goals and more!
But be weary!
As easy as it is to achieve success, it’s even easier to sabotage it. Believe it or not, the biggest threat to your success is YOU!
Don’t worry, though! I’ve come up with a list of 10 things to avoid, so that you can be successful in all your health and fitness (and life) endeavors, and continue to be the happiest, healthiest version of you possible!
1. Setting unrealistic goals:
Goals are very important. They give you direction, something to work for. Goals give you a purpose for making positive changes. Essentially, they’re your why.
Setting goals is a great way to start building healthy habits that will follow you through the rest of your life. But, all too often people set crazy, unrealistic goals that they cannot possibly achieve. Goals like…
I’m going to lose 20 pounds in a month.
I’m going to build muscle and totally reshape my body in 12 weeks.
I’m only going to eat “clean” and “healthy” foods from now on.
Goals like that just aren’t feasible. There’s no way you’re going to lose 20 pounds in a month without being sick. Additionally, you’re not going to go from Bruce Banner to The Incredible Hulk in 12 weeks. Those types of changes in body composition take time…lots of time!…And, trying to only adhere to a “clean” and “healthy” diet, with no room for flexibility, will only lead to dissatisfaction, binging, guilt, and, eventually, abandonment of that goal altogether.
Instead, try setting smaller, more realistic goals that you can actually stick to, like…
I’m going to start working out a little each day, in an effort to improve my health and lose some body fat.
I’m going to start incorporating weightlifting into my workouts, in an effort to build lean muscle over time.
I’m going to start making better nutrition choices little by little each day.
By being realistic, you’ll be much more likely to stick to your game plan, and, ultimately, succeed.
2. Being impatient:
Did you know?…The number one reason people abandon their fitness journey is because they look at how far they still have to go, instead of looking at how far they’ve actually come.
Patience is KEY!
Just because you aren’t where you want to be does not mean you aren’t on track. Significant change takes time, but progress does happen daily…Usually, without you even realizing!
Focus on the small victories, like how your energy has improved, the quality of your sleep, the strength and endurance you’ve gained, your mood, and your confidence level. Think of how you’re feeling and performing, now.
I guarantee if you think back to when you started, you’ve made some pretty awesome improvements since…Be proud of those improvements, and keep working towards your goals!
3. Comparing yourself to others:
You are you…I am me…Those fitness models on social media are who they are…
My point is, everyone is different, and everyone is unique. Don’t spend your time scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, etc. wishing you were someone else, because you’re not…and you never will be!
The only thing you’re ever going to be is YOU…and That. Is. Enough.
You are exactly who you were meant to be! Embrace that! Love yourself…for YOU…because there will never be another you.
You are special…
YOU! ARE! ENOUGH!
4. An all-or-nothing attitude:
While it’s good to be focused and determined to reach your goals, going into it with an all-or-nothing attitude will only end in disaster.
If you’re goal is to make better nutrition choices, that’s great! Just don’t go into it with the notion of never eating “junk food” again…If you do, you’ll fail.
Good nutrition is important to any healthy lifestyle, but part of good nutrition is indulging in the things you love, as well. If you try to cut out all the foods you love…you know, the less-than-Healthy ones…you’ll crave, and eventually, you’ll cave, which will lead to a binge, and possibly you giving up.
Make small changes each day. Have a nutritious breakfast. Have a side salad at lunch, instead of fries. Make it a point to have at least one vegetable with dinner each night. Small swaps will really add up!
The same goes for fitness. If your goal is to start exercising and get in shape, don’t start by trying to go balls to the wall 6 days a week. You’ll get tired and abandon that real quick!
Instead, start off by moving a little more each day. Park a little farther from stores or your workplace, so you’ll have to take a few extra steps. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Go for a shot walk after lunch or dinner. Start doing a structured workout 2-3 times a week. Learn the movements, progress slowly, have fun with it! You don’t have to get there all in one day.
Take your time, be kind to yourself, and remember, making small daily changes will lead to bigger results than an all-or-nothing approach.
5. Never leaving your comfort zone:
Good things never come from comfort zones…
In order to grow, you have to do things that scare you a little, things that make you uncomfortable, things that are hard. Whether it be changing careers, asking for a raise, starting a new fitness program, or embarking on a complete lifestyle overhaul, you’ve just got to get in there and go for it!
Don’t let your fear of failure hold you back!…Don’t let YOU hold yourself back!
After all, you are your biggest limiting factor…
Breaking out of your comfort zone will help you realize your full potential and show you what you’re truly capable of.
6. Making excuses:
it’s too cold.
It costs too much.
I don’t like that kind of food.
I don’t have time.
It’s simple, either you want change or you don’t!
If you do, making excuses will get yo no where.
#TruthBomb: You’re not always going to be motivated.
Most days, you’ll have to talk yourself into doing the things you know are best for you, the things that will help you get closer to achieving your goals, because you won’t always want to do those things. Working out, eating well, drinking water, going to bed early are all necessary, but 90% of the time you’ll want to do the exact opposite.
On those days, you just have to throw away the excuses, and make yourself do what you don’t want to. Those are the days when it is necessary to dig deep and just do what needs to be done.
Motivation won’t always be there….Excuses will!…You have to be stronger than those excuses.
7. Following “fad diets”:
You’ve heard them all, Atkins, South Beach, The Zone, Paleo, Keto (as a “diet”), and many more…miracle weight loss solutions guaranteed to give you dramatic results literally overnight.
The problem is…
You cannot achieve real results “overnight”, or even within the short frame of time promised by fad diets.
In all honesty, fad diets are unrealistic, unhealthy and pretty much hopeless…Lasting, maintainable results take TIME. They take hard work. They take dedication and patience. And, they take sound nutritional choices.
There is no amount of yo-yo dieting on the planet that will give you the results that good old fashioned, consistent hard work will.
My advice, skip the fad!…Be your own trendsetter!…Move your body daily, drink plenty of water, and fuel up of nourishing, wholesome foods that energize you and leave you feeling good!
8. Listening to to the negativity of others:
No matter what you do, someone will have something negative to say.
You can’t please everyone, and that’s ok! The most important thing is that YOU are happy and fulfilled.
Fact: Getting others to understand your lifestyle choices is often the hardest thing, especially when those choices are geared towards bettering your own life.
You have to realize that everyone is not going to understand, and everyone is not going to support you. But, don’t let that discourage you!
Keep living your best life!
Keep making healthy/productive choices!
Keep doing what makes you the healthiest, happiest version of yourself, and don’t be afraid to radiate your happiness!
Whenever someone else questions you or tries to bring you down…and they will…just tell them. “i’m doing this for ME! You you don’t have to like it, understand it, or agree with it, but you do have to accept it…because it’s for ME…not you, and I’m doing it”.
In the end, life is too short to worry about what other people think about you, anyway. So, do what’s best for YOU, have fun, and give them something to talk about!
9. Not believing in yourself:
If you believe you can, you’re right…If you believe you can’t, you’re also right.
Here’s the thing, guys. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else is going to. You are capable of ANYTHING! You just have to believe it!
Believe in yourself and all that you are!…Know that there is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle…EVERYTHING you need to succeed is already inside of you! Never forget that!
You got this!
10. Quitting when things get tough:
And, things WILL get tough!
There’s a saying that goes “If it were easy, everyone would do it“.
If it were easy, it wouldn’t be worth it!
Nothing worth having ever comes without a little struggle and sacrifice. Quitting when things get tough will only make them tougher. The best thing to do is face obstacles head on, with a positive attitude, and work through them.
Learn to roll with the punches.
You’re not going to succeed at everything the first time. You’re going to fail…A LOT! Learn from those failures…Grow from them…Don’t give up when things get hard. Jump in and give it your all.
Success doesn’t come from doing everything right the first time. Success comes from constant, genuine effort and unwavering dedication.
Success comes from never giving up!